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Don't Get "Should"
on by the Holidays
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Every year, we all look forward to the end of the year holidays starting with Halloween followed by Thanksgiving, Christmas and then New Years. For me, it always starts out being fun and then some-where between Thanksgiving and Christmas, I seem to lose sight of what this time is all about.
Immediately after
Thanksgiving, you really should get your Christmas
decorations up. Especially outside, if you have at least one day of good
weather. Once you have those outside decorations up, you should
get busy with the inside ones. You know, the tree, the lights, the floral
arrangements, etc. Many of us still believe we should
keep the family tradition by going out and cutting a fresh tree, but some
of us have succumbed to the artificial one. And then you wonder, “how
many rooms should I decorate?" I pretty
much confine my decorations to the front entrance, the great room and
the living room, but I know people who decorate the entire house including
swapping out their every-day dishes for Christmas dishes, putting Christmas
sheets and spreads on their beds and putting up and decorating a tree
in every room in the house! Once you get those decorations up, you should
find some time to address and send Christmas cards. I always ponder about
whether I should send them only to people
out of town or should I only send them to
people I don’t see on a regular basis or should
I include relatives? It’s very confusing and stressful. Charities
are another point of contention. I feel like I should
give, but to which ones and how many or how much? I give throughout the
year, but when I hear those bells ringing outside the store, I still feel
like I should be giving more. Shopping is
another thing you really should get done.
And then once you’ve completed your shopping, you should
either hide the presents or get them wrapped and under the tree before
anyone discovers them and ruins the surprise. Then there’s the present
that needs to be mailed. You really should
make sure it’s in the appropriate packaging and gets to the post
office early enough so that it reaches its destination in plenty of time.
Cookie making is a should I gave up years
ago. When the kids were little and excited to help, it was fun. But now,
I’d end up doing it alone and all of us should
be watching those calories anyway.
So, before you get should on too many times,
maybe you want to take some time to think about what’s really important
and why you’re doing it. Are you doing it because you should
or because it’s a cherished tradition or simply because you want
to. When you do things because you want to, it’s much more enjoyable.
The shoulds often are what causes the stress.
If you’re having difficulty identifying and eliminating some of
the shoulds, click
here for a sample coaching session to help you work through these
issues.
The important thing is to remember the meaning of each holiday that you
choose to celebrate. Take time to enjoy family, friends and relatives.
Take time to remember those who are no longer with us. Take time to be
thankful for what you have and what you have to offer to others. Spread
some joy and good tidings and above all...
HAVE A VERY MERRY
CHRISTMAS
AND
A HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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Jo Anne's Journey - 2005
- 8 - 11 American Football Coaches Association Convention- Presenting a breakout session at the Wives Convention
- 10 - 12 Coach Training Institute
In The Bones - Atlanta, GA
- 15 - 17 National High School Athletic Administrators Association Convention
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Sports Spouses - The Challenge of Being a Coach's Wife
Being a coach’s wife takes a special person. You automatically become the CEO of your household and family. You are the “glue” that holds it all together. When it’s time to move, you make all the arrangements. When it comes to dealing with the kids issues at school, you deal with the teachers. When it comes to soothing your spouse’s bruised ego after a loss, you’re the one who’s there for them.
When recently working with a group of coaches’ wives and asking the top three to five challenges of being a coach’s wife, the number one reason was loneliness followed by work/life balance, limited family time, lack of communication and dealing with change. Sound familiar?
Being a coach’s wife may be fulfilling enough for some women, but not for others. That certainly doesn’t mean that they don’t love their husbands or that they’re not supportive. It may just mean that they also need to be fulfilled as a person themselves. By working with a coach, women would have an opportunity to find out what it is that fulfills them. In addition, they can share experiences and build camaraderie.
Coaching is an opportunity for the wives to identify their own goals and issues, develop a plan for obtaining them and be held accountable.
For more information, log on to www.riseandshinetoday.com (Group Coaching) or contact Jo Anne Froelich, Personal and Professional Coach at 517-202-0553.
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